Fair Weather Friends

Why at 44, is it still a jolt, to realize that one still has "fair weather friends?" Or more aptly put, "fair weather acquaintances?" Probably because they are not immediately identifiable. Sometimes the guilt falls on us, because we know the status of a relationship, but continue to hang on for some unknown reason. There is something not always apparent, to gain, and we hold on for our own self-inflicted painful lesson. For every "fair weather friend," there is a true friend waiting to be claimed. Often times less drama is involved, but what we lose in unsettling drama, we gain in affection and reliability. I'm not sure about you, but I'm ready to turn in a few poor relationships, for those that are truly mutual and nurturing. This is my new resolution in the middle of August. It's a grown-up resolution, that prompts me to take responsibility for my own choices and my own happiness. It avoids placing the blame on anyone else, and it shows promise for my future relationships. Once the narcissist, the user, the individual that does not reciprocate is identified, it is wholly within our power to free ourselves from the bad situation. We are NOT powerless! Those of us who feel used and helpless at times, could do well to ponder on this and reclaim our right to the joy of true friendship. It's really out there!